It is time for all fathers to GO HOME to your children. The excuse that you are out with the boys for a drink is the most irresponsible excuse to abandon your responsibility. What happen to the men that made sure their family was protected and provided for. What is so exciting for two or more men to be starring in each other’s face drinking rum until fore day in the morning?
The practice that has been embedded in the psyche of Bahamian men has been accepted for the most part for decades. But wiser men must know by now that the “I’m going for drink with the boys” is widely not believed by the wives or mothers of your children. They view it as excuse to get out of the house rather than a social drink with the boys. Once every blue moon is more acceptable, but every evening after work is childish, not even talking about the devastation that the consistent consumption of alcohol will do.
Real men should place the family as a priority, no matter what. In these trying times where crime has now gone out of control, the protection for the home should be a priority. How would a man who is always with the boys feel if he finds out that his underage daughter is now being mentored by an adult male? And how would these same men, who must have a drink every evening feel if they found out that their son has been frequenting another adult male or adult female while he is only a boy.
When is this masquerade of pretending to be father going to stop? How and when would the lame excuse to get out of the house cease. Only an idiot of a female would believe that every single evening the male who is supposed to be in charge of the home is sitting with men and getting satisfaction doing it. Something is wrong with that picture.
The long hours spent with someone’s husband and father should be spent with your own family. It is clear that the breakdown in the family is the number one reason why the society is in decay. The idea of burying your head in the sand, hoping things would get better is only an illusion.
There is nothing honourable about a man who must drink all the time and who substitutes his family for a drink with the boys. It is high time that the real fathers who love their children step up to the plate and contribute to saving this country, that seem to be on a collision course.
The various breakdowns in society are unsettling to put it mildly. The worse we could do is not be honest about the dilemma we find ourselves in to be politically correct. Just remember that “The sins of the father fall on the children to the third and fourth generation” and what goes around comes across.
The high statistics, as it relates to crime, would be considerably different if fathers focus on their responsibilities. The fathers are to blame for their negligence. PERIOD!!
By: Ivoine W. Ingraham
